Stay Aware of What You Are Doing Right

Cherry Chocolate Chunk Ice Cream

DAY 3 – 7 of Tea and Meditation:

I’ve been a very bad girl.

Here I was going to take five minutes each day to meditate over a cup of tea, then blog about my experience; but as you can see I haven’t posted anything since my mini-meltdown on Day 2.  Now it is Day 7.  So what happened?

Well, on Day 3 I actually did take five minutes to focus on the moment, but then Day 4 rolled round and I got caught-up in doing, rather than being. By the time I came up for air on Day 4, at 3:00AM in the morning, I was simply too exhausted to do anything except hit the hay. At least I fell asleep thinking about tea and meditation.

Days 5 and 6 were pretty much the same. I spent the day focusing on completing my never-ending “to-do” list. I kept telling myself that I would take time later to meditate with a cup of tea.

Predictably, the day ended without me taking five lousy minutes to be in the moment.

By Day 7 I had completely abandoned my goal in favor of stress and chaos. Same old, same old. Ugh!

A Realization:

While reflecting on the past week and utter lack of success in accomplishing my daily five-minute tea and meditation goal, I realized something.

I was so focused on not being able to achieve my tea and meditation objective, that I had lost sight of what I was going well: I had stopped buying Edy’s Cherry Chocolate Chip ice cream. This was a pretty big deal, but let me explain.

All summer long I’ve had a carton of this delightful concoction in my freezer. Each day without fail, I would take a scoop (or more) and treat myself. It was becoming quite a bad habit and it wasn’t helping me to lose those extra pounds.

For some reason, I decided last week of all weeks, to break my habitI know better than to try and make two lifestyle changes at the same time, but I did it anyway.

Looking back, now I know why I kept craving dessert teas all last week and felt on edge each day! It must have been ice cream withdrawal!

The good news is that I did break my nasty ice cream habit. Consequently, I’ve felt a bit calmer this week.

Next Steps:

Once I recognized what had gotten me off track with my five-minute tea and meditation goal, I was able to think more clearly and focus on moving forward.

I truly thought it was a lack of commitment that was my undoing. When in reality, my dedication was strong but the timing was wrong.

So, what next?

I think I’ll try again.

Now, that my ice cream habit has been taken care of, I think it is time to move on to tea and meditation. I am quite hopeful that this week holds incredible promise. Hopefully, I will find a little alert peacefulness.

I’ll keep you updated.

Oh, and if you run across any cherry and chocolate flavored tea you’ll let me know, right? 😉

This is “a girl with tea” signing off once again.

Remember to live, laugh, love and drink plenty of tea.


Photo Credit: adria.richards – via Flickr CC Attribution License

[box] Have you ever failed at something you really wanted to achieve? What do you think may have been the cause? Could it have been something you hadn’t even yet considered? What are you doing that’s right?[/box]

Day 1: Exploring Alert Peacefulness One Day at a Time

Day 2: When Life Throws You a Curve Ball Make Tea

13 comments on “Stay Aware of What You Are Doing Right

  1. Jeanine Byers Hoag September 15, 2010 2:29 PM

    I find that to be the case all the time, that in addition to and often instead of whatever I have come up with as the reason for failure, there is another one lurking behind it that is a culprit I hadn’t considered! It’s happening this week, actually.

    My tea and meditation changes have led to more changes in lifestyle! Now I am trying to change my sleep and work habits so that I actually get enough sleep and have more time for rest and family. It is a part of the whole “contemplative tea lifestyle” change I have been angling for but I hadn’t expected to decide to go crazy.

    As a night owl trying now to sleep like a lark, I am running into some difficulty. For one thing, I am naturally foggy in the morning and part of the reason for that is my allergies. The other part is that it’s too blankety-blank early.

    At night, instead of working, I am sitting on the couch with a Jane Austen sequel, keeping an eye on the TV and trying to read at the same time so that I won’t (1) be bored and (2) worry about the work I still haven’t done.

    I’m doing it but I’m not enjoying it very much!

    Part of the reason for that is that the chosen book is not an easy read for me. I am used to chick lit that is very easily digested! I can’t seem to get lost in my reading. Instead, I am sort of plodding along.

    And these sitcoms are kind of boring when you’re not doing anything else while you watch!

    So I am having some withdrawal, too, and possibly, also attempting too many changes at once.

    I am blogging the good, the bad and the ugly about my experience, too! Glad to have company.


    • a girl with tea September 20, 2010 2:35 AM

      Hi Jeanine,

      Yes! It is great to have company on this tea and meditation journey.

      I love reading your comments and I am totally with you on the whole “it’s too blankety-blank early” in the morning thing. I am usually up until 2:00 or 3:00 AM and I like my eight hours of sleep, so I ain’t no rise and shine with the sun kinda gal. Maybe someday, but for now I am giving into my night owl tendencies.

      I’m in awe that you’re up late reading Jane Austen, I wish I were as dedicated to literature as you are! Instead, I am up late watching YouTube videos of Eddie Izzard talking about skiing elephants and monkeys with guns…

      Thanks for commenting!

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